Mother's choice

The topic of discussion the other day in office was "who had the right to decide if its the time to have a baby and to continue with the baby "
this is a highly sensitive issue and the right decision should be taken as it involves a life of a small baby
my opinion is it should be the mothers choice - she is the right person to decide when to have a baby , whether to have a second baby or have the first baby at all
I am not saying this because she is the one who is under going physical and mental changes when she is carrying the baby but for the total alteration in her very thought process once she knows that she has conceived.
in my own experience the minute i knew am carrying my entire thought process changed , its an added responsibility , u are going to be in charge of another life and to make or break that life is an enormous feeling
this doesn't mean that the father's thought process doest change at all , but for father's its more like a new life in their universe , they love and cherish the bay but their life doesn't stop . the cricket , basketball , late night parties , care free time with friends , hours of talk on the phone , office responsibilities doesn't stop or take a back seat just because of a new arrival
Where as for the mother everything including her well being takes a back seat and her primary focus is the baby
if they have to choose between changing a soiled diaper and a final over in India Pakistan match am sure 99 out of 100 mothers will first change the diaper , pacify the baby and then if possible watch the highlights .where as for men i think probably 1 out 100 would do it cricket would take a preference this doesn't mean they don't love their baby but that's just the way they are .

for the mother, she totally involves her self with the baby , babies each achievement is her own ,each failure is her own , she rejoices,cries,grows and flourishes with the baby .
In the olden days her life just revolves around her baby and husband , but now she is educated , her exposure is good her life revolves around baby and husband but just not them , she has the space , energy and time for herself - in spite of this new found Independence baby is the most important in her life , the baby takes preference over everything in her life
breakfast,headache,angry boss,irritating mother in law all can wait for that precious bundle
cheers to mother hood
for the very reason i think mothers should have the right to decide whether to have a baby and if yes when .